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I’m a real human and a sex worker

It seems that this should not be a sentence I have to mesh together. Yet there is this huge void in peoples minds that justifies their words or actions because someone holds a taboo job gives them the means to ridicule, cut down or flat out verbally destroy someone via the internet.

I’ve been desiring to make a blog post about this for awhile. I’ve had these experiences for 9 years of being online in adult work but lately some fresh instances have given me a bit of a drive to sit down and really have a talk about it. (Please RT this post!)

Here look at these attachments. My twin Brooke today was the receiver of an unfortunate chain of events. Which fueled my fire yet again to write this. Take a look:

I’m not even sure where to start?

Firstly this video was most likely stolen and posted on a website that Brooke did not give permission for it to be there. Then it was sent to someone to post and make “funny” cracks at for their own deranged amusement.

I’ve seen situations like this get out of hand quickly.  Personal privacy breached, adult content put on a site where 18 and under can see it easier and to state the obvious that people have killed themselves over comments on the internet-THIS IS YET ANOTHER FORM OF CYBER BULLYING.
Just because you are behind a keyboard does not mean that your words are not harmful. (don’t worry Brooke is not upset but has reminded herself why she never reads comments)

In just a few comments she was called a bitch, a fucktard and other things. What an absolutely fowl way to describe a women you saw once in a video…that you know nothing about. Who was not harming anyone or anything. Who had her content stolen that was paid for by a client. you should all be ashamed of yourself if you conduct yourself this way.

Now Brooke and I have been online for almost a decade and fully aware that these type of situations happen so are not going to be a part of the statistics that commit suicide over it. Still a valid point to bring up in my opinion.

Secondly the comments of Daddy should be proud and all this other stuff. WHAT? lol >_< (laughing while cringing) why did you bring her parents up into this business? They have nothing to do with her adult life. Hey PS they know and it’s not an issue. Thanks for your concern. They are proud of the people they know we are past the job we chose. Can’t say the same for your parents if they saw you posting on this video ripping a young attractive girl apart for no reason.

She sure as fuck did not make that video for you. Actually a PAYING customer did though. Someone who respects her work and the validity of sex work in our society.

and she sure is fuck is not going to go start tanning because you think her skin is too pale for your liking. (get over yourself you twat pale skin is beautiful-tanning causes cancer)

Thirdly the majority of the comments are a negative bash while bringing a sexist vibe alluding to them jerking off to the “disgusting” video. Hmm. I don’t know but I’m not laughing.

A woman can be respected no matter her life choices being that of a sex worker. Many of my clients have the utmost respect for me. In privacy they tell me that bringing their fantasies to life has been immensely helpful. I make sure my clients are using my services as responsible as possible. Can’t say the same for a lot of conglomerate companies…but since a women is showing her body by her own choice for some reason men feel the need act as you see above.

The least other humans can do is make sure the words they are typing out are helpful and not harmful. I feel like I’m talking to a five year old right now. Think before you type/act/spew word diarrhea. “Are you words being helpful or harmful?”

Kudos and brownie points to the few on this post who said something positive or showed their credibility by speaking up for this women in the video.

This woman is a real person. A real person who I bet you did not think would see all your comments eh?

Sex workers are people with lives beyond what they do. Beyond the product they produce. We have families, hobbies, goals, dreams, illnesses, exhaustion, depression, anxiety, happiness, pets, children and lives just like yours. Yet the majority of sex workers I know are amazing people who have such compassion for others. Who are giving back behind the scenes to charities, family member and friends. All while being dissected under a microscope of hate.

There is positive vibes in sex work-the media just does not want you to see it.

Through sex work I have been able to explore hobbies I’d never have the time or income to do if I was working a 9-5. I’ve started other businesses. I give back monthly to people I know and do not know in any way I can. I’ve re habbed horses and found them better homes. An expense that never gives back financially. I’m able to provide myself with self care-mental health therapist, massages, quiet no work days, time spent in nature if I need etc. I could keep going but I’m sure those with a brain get the point.

Thank you to those who realize we are human. That sex work is work and that what we all can bring to the table can be life changing. Not only for ourselves but for our clients.

For inside the fact that we as sex workers are not widely accepted in society-but our services are widely used-we have found acceptance to be something we are incredibly good at.

I’ll accept that you like being called a doggie and spanked with a bottle up your ass if you’ll accept that I’m a person-just like you.

MV

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The Great Return

Hello to the land of kink and femdom,

I have been off from accepting custom videos since May of this year. (wow!) Except for a handful of times I’ve been so gracious to film for a few clients I have not been actively producing content. BUT now I have decided to return to custom videos mid-January. The house situation I’m dealing with has literally no end in sight as I’m having to fire the current contractors.

I will still be recording at home BUT I will also be using my twin Brookes studio. TRY not to get confused. I know we are twins and some videos will be recorded in the same set up. (her studio) If you prefer one over the other make the request in your custom video email.

Custom video blog has been updated: -I’m NOW (12/19/2016) accepting custom video emails/requests. I will begin to record again starting MID-January. Clips will now have a sliding timeline of completion. I will not say no to your clip if I do not “have time” I will merely tell you that it will take 2-4-6+ weeks for completion. This will be a way to not have to deny custom orders, there sometimes will be a longer turn around time BUT I plan to record EVERY week-

Yes you read that right. I have set aside one day a week strictly for recording customs. This will make it easier to complete and continue to produce the great personal content I’m known for.

I’m excited to get back into a schedule. I think that will help me deal with the house nightmare in some way. Something “normal” to grasp onto. (LOL normal, femdom so normal! MY normal. -wink)

You can read more about custom videos HERE: http://missvikkilynn.com/custom-videos/

I do not plan to return to web camming. Skype is sometimes, albeit very rarely an option for those who can make it worth My time.

I will be posting panties on twitter for sale though when I have them available. Keep watch there.

I’m going to keep this short and sweet and leave you with these photos. I had the rare chance today to use some gorgeous natural light for SIX videos (wow I’m awesome) and I’m going to go back to editing now. Ciao My minions.

PS: These photos are from a video to be released December 23rd, a little Christmas jolly jack off instruction for you. I’m so nice, I know.

 

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Time to succeed. -Inspirational-

At age 23, Tina Fey was working at a YMCA.

At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.

At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer.

At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school.

At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.

At age 28, Wayne Coyne (from The Flaming Lips) was a fry cook.

At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.

At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker.

At age 37, Ang Lee was a stay-at-home-dad working odd jobs.

Julia Child released her first cookbook at age 39, and got her own cooking show at age 51.

Vera Wang failed to make the Olympic figure skating team, didn’t get the Editor-in-Chief position at Vogue, and designed her first dress at age 40.

Stan Lee didn’t release his first big comic book until he was 40.

Alan Rickman gave up his graphic design career to pursue acting at age 42.

Samuel L. Jackson didn’t get his first movie role until he was 46.

Morgan Freeman landed his first MAJOR movie role at age 52.

Kathryn Bigelow only reached international success when she made The Hurt Locker at age 57.

Grandma Moses didn’t begin her painting career until age 76.

Louise Bourgeois didn’t become a famous artist until she was 78.

Whatever your dream is, it is not too late to achieve it. You aren’t a failure because you haven’t found fame and fortune by the age of 21. Hell, it’s okay if you don’t even know what your dream is yet. Even if you’re flipping burgers, waiting tables or answering phones today, you never know where you’ll end up tomorrow.

Never tell yourself you’re too old to make it.
Never tell yourself you missed your chance.
Never tell yourself that you aren’t good enough.
You can do it. Whatever it is.

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Communicating Interests

The other day I tweeted asking for ideas about blogs you all feel would be interesting! I always like hearing what you would like to know more about. Below Kelle expresses her interest in hearing more about communicating your interests in adult work.  So lets call this an “Interesting Inquisitions” type of blog series.

IMG_8936Great question!

Many people are socially awkward in person and much better online via email. Or really great in person but really horrible online.  Or on rare occasions you can have someone that is great at both things! (me! or least I can pretend to be good at both…yay acting!)

Either way, here we are, online-so let’s talk about that.

When someone emails me it’s so great when they start with addressing me, introducing themselves and what they are interested in purchasing.  Because in all honesty that is what the prime focus is for me having an email address that I share. The email (at the height of it’s greatness) should resemble something like this:

“Hello Miss Victoria,

I’m a big fan of your work for quite some time and have been purchasing it for awhile. I’m truly interested in a custom video that includes ass worship, cei and some light humiliation. I’m looking for it to be around 10 minutes and or spend X amount at this time. If you are available to produce this desired content for me I would be very thankful. I will patiently await further communication.

Sincerely, -submissive joe”

See does not have to be extremely detailed to start (or even submissive in nature if you are not into that), starting the wave of communication is the second most important part…

What is the first? Why am I doing this backwards?

because that is what most people do… (lol sigh)

FIRST, the most important part of communicating with an online producer that you want to support is reading their blog and or website for information that helps you make a decisions. That is why they have it there. (well it’s why I do at least) My blog for example on custom videos outlines prices, things I’m into, things I’m not into, scene locations etc.

The first and foremost worst thing you can do after reading my blog is emailing me saying: “I know you said you don’t do x, y and x but since you did before in your clip store a few years ago I’m wondering if you’ll -que insane long email with insanely detailed script containing things I already quite clearly said I’m not into doing-

No. No I won’t. Now you’ve just wasted my time, my brain space and capacity to put my neurons towards other uses. I do not, I repeat I do not have to explain to you my choices of why I don’t do things on the no list etc. It’s not your business.

Read my blog/website…learn a little bit about me and what I’m currently about…this will insure that you receive timely responses to the emails you send and a video I can agree to produce that tickles both our fancies.

Many producers receive a lot of emails, it’s helpful but not necessary to send a small token or appreciation when emailing. A tribute or gift card somewhere. This shows that you are indeed serious about a custom video, skype session, clothing purchase etc. I’m not all about nickle and diming people BUT sometimes it can get really daunting for a producer to respond to so many emails that never come to anything. One attached with a tribute can get a lot faster attention.

-attaching said tribute does not make you an alpha god, please act accordingly-as in not like a pompous asshole-

This really is not rocket science but I do admit that some of us don’t think the same as others who may be more adept at communication. I’ve just been doing this for 9 years so to be things appear plain as day but for someone else quite murky. I hope you find this helpful. If you have further ideas you think would add to this blog posting leave a comment in the section below!

To sum this up, read about the producer, coordinate email with introduction, body, signature and be oh so thankful we all here in this industry like to cater to your kinks. 😉

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Finding Humor in Adult Work

The other day I tweeted asking for ideas about blogs you all feel would be interesting! I always like hearing what you would like to know more about.  Below Jay expresses his interest in hearing more about humor in adult work.  So lets call this an “Interesting Inquisitions” type of blog series.

IMG_8937I think you NEED a sense of humor to stay in this career path. When dealing with the delicate nature of sex and humanity there are lots of things that can go right…and lots of things that can go wrong. The ability to kind of laugh, take a joke or let things roll off you is important. Therefore you need humor in this industry to stay sane (or some version of sane)  Many speak about getting a “tough skin” being in a business that sells beauty.

Though I like to think (and believe) that it’s not just about beauty here, it’s about brains too. (if you plan to survive that is)

For example just today I and countless other online sex workers received an email about how horrible we are, that we need to repent and are whores. So…there is that…and then there is me laughing. What a way to inspire me for a future clip. -golf clap- LOL

I think humor is very sexy. If you can’t make me laugh long term we probably won’t be talking long. Whether it’s from a humiliating custom/session or just every day comical life-I like to laugh. I try to keep the laughing at others expense to when I’m paid for it…(hehe)

-But I do follow this twitter page, I think it’s called “The Darwin Awards” and it’s full of people doing really stupid things. HAHAHA! Certainly makes me feel better about my level of common sense.

Since many sex workers are alienated and judged extensively (and harshly) by society I think it’s important those who work in adult remain light hear-ted as possible about our career choices. Sex, Fetish, Kink etc is all sought out essentially as a feel good experience and to keep it that way must remain positive as possible.

Not to say that some (or all) of us don’t need a dark room and a different city, state to live in sometimes to get away from society well you have to find the humor in that yourself somehow.

As for what makes me laugh I think that is a broad spectrum. TV show wise I like comedies such as Friends or The Big Bang Theory. My sense of humor ranges form very dry to sadistic. I’m forever changing really. Depending on my mood something may be funny today that is not tomorrow!

Watch out…I’m like a cat…one minute I want you to touch me the other minutes I’m leaving a scar on your hand.

Thanks for the question Jay, enjoy. (I think you and I have a date with spin the bottle custom? Let’s see how funny things can get there -wink)

 

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