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Things to do, when you think you have nothing to do because of CO19

I do hope that next year at this same time I can reveal and feel blessed in the idea that we are not dealing with this sort of situation. This is certainly a one of a kind experience that none of us were expecting. I do not want to replicate this again in my life time. This year has been a hard one for many. I myself do not take the changing of a year as a tipping point of difference. I use all year around as a self motivation to seek to better myself and the world around me. While it is perfectly okay to use a new year to motivate, I just want people to not get caught up in the idea a new year should have meant a better one. I believe humans get caught up in the control of time. When time is changing, infinite and out of our control. Time is a man made construct. Lets not get stuck on the idea that 2020 should have been a year that things changed, instead we can become aware that our current situation has spurred the need for the very things that are unjust in this world and should be changed.

I also want to touch on those who are making light of the situation with jokes. That is not my aim with this blog posting. Many of our fellow humans are immune compromised, sick, pregnant, cancer, elderly etc. This is a very real threat to them. We must change our habits to protect others. I’m certain most of us have someone who falls under the high risk category. During this time we should be reaching out to others to assist best of our ability.

Remember to breathe deeply, get extra sleep, drink lots of water and try to eat well. Find a center of calm and do not let panic spur your reactions or conversations with others. Preparing the best you can will lessen any anxiety. Grab some extra food if possible or contact the right people if you are in need of help from community for food.

I wanted to initially make this blog so I could share a list of ideas to keep people busy. I know our brains can get caught up in gerbil wheel and not think straight during times of uncertainty. If you have an idea please comment on twitter below and I might add it in! I realize some of these ideas do take income and not everyone will have expendable income at this time. I’m sending everyone love and light as I know this is an uneasy time. I hope you can find something useful here for yourself.

  1. CLEAN YOUR VEHICLES: Now is a really great time to clean out your car. REALLY GOOD. Since our cars take us lots of places and therefor are also coming in contact with places and others through this means. Planning to give your car a deep interior clean is a great idea and way to pass the time. Turn on some great music (not the news!) and find it as a way of meditating while getting a task done that many find hard to find time for usually. My car is usually the last place I have time to give a deep clean so I’m planning this myself likely next week.
  2. GET OUTSIDE: This is very important. (long as this is allowed in your country/city/state) If you can not get outside, sit by an open window. Nature and fresh air is very good for our immune systems. Make sure you stay warm, scarfs around the neck are great way to have something to pull up over your face too if going by or around others. Turn on some music (not the news!) or just quietly meditate as you walk, run or maybe just enjoy laying outside on a blanket.
  3. BOOKS PODCASTS MAGAZINES: Now is a great time to catch up on all that reading or listening material that you think about doing during the work day. Watching other peoples podcasts are also very helpful on youtube as views can generate income for those who use youtube as a stream of income. I have quite a few artists that I can’t wait to dive into their podcasts during this time. (I’m trying to stay positive) Many artists also have online classes! Adding another thread for that:
  4. ONLINE CLASSES: I do not mean college necessarily or at all. Many entrepreneurs have access to online classes that can be purchased one at a time or as bundles (which usually give a discount). Artists, musicians, cosplayers, tarot card readers etc. All these type of things can be done remotely. This will also help creatives as being self employed especially now can be quite volatile.
  5. RESTAURANT GIFT CARDS: To help small business-I saw this today and thought it was a super sweet gesture for those that can afford it. To support your local (community owned, I’m not worried about chains) restaurants who may have to close soon, buy a gift card now and use it later when things start to improve. They can use the money now and you can use your gift card later. It will be something to look forward too. Take a friend out, significant other or maybe by then you’ll have arranged a date!
  6. MENTAL HEALTH: Many providers will allow or have access to a session ONLINE. Make sure you carve out time to talk to someone if you need too. Just being able to get it all out, have a good cry and have someone be there for you and a voice of reason is good. If you do not have a therapist maybe ask a friend if it’s okay if you can discuss some of your fears with them right now. (not everyone has the head space to do so, please be respectful of others mental health as well)
  7. PAINT A ROOM: Or two or three? Grab some paint for your house. Do you need a room painted and just have not had the time? Now is a great time to start a project that does not invest a ton of money but can keep you occupied. Make sure you get all the right supplies. Painters tape, the right paint, brushes and rollers. I have a few rooms that could use touched up so this is something I’m going to plan for myself. Don’t forget your baseboards especially if they are white like mine. (UGH! haha) ALSO:
  8. SMALL HOME REPAIRS: This is a great time to make your spring home repair list of small things you can do yourself and or know someone you can pay if they need the income and are talented in that department. Grab those supplies in the next few days as it might be possible that some businesses will close. Spring is starting many places and if you have a yard a lot can be accomplished. The entire process will help your mind and be a great way to help your body by being outside. Maybe you want to even plan a super small garden this year? I’ve been wanting too for years and have not had the time. This year might just be my year!
  9. HOBBY TIME: I’m sure we all have a hobby we wish we had a bit more time for. To learn about or actually do. Youtube is a great place to learn more about a hobby and how to do it, the right supplies needed etc. It is also a free resource. Maybe you have a lot of supplies for your hobby already? Now is a great time to organize them. Hobbies can be lots of things: baking, painting, singing, learning an instrument, writing and gee…the list could go on!
  10. ORGANIZE: I’m super big on an organized household but working from home I’m always meddling in improving that somewhere in my house. If you are home and can not work now is a great time to organize literally…everything. Closets, drawers, the kitchen, bathroom etc. Not good at organizing? Lots of free articles and ideas online on youtube, pinterest and lots of blogs and websites. Organizing is also a great way to mentally clear your mind. The less stuff we have laying around that we don’t use or need the more our minds are free to be wild and play. Don’t forget your garage! Or maybe you have a storage unit. ALSO:
  11. BOXES/DONATIONS: Get some boxes while you are organizing, leave one in each room or in the hallway by multiple rooms. Have an “unsure box” “don’t want box” “give to friends box” etc so on and so forth. OR just donate it all to a charity once it is allowed to do so. (Since I realize many will be closed) BUT you can go through your things and have it ready for when the time comes.
  12. FACETIME! PHONECALLS! Since face to face communication is not going to be possible now is the time to (sorry if you hate phone calls I know that can give some people anxiety!) call and check in on your friends you may have not been able to for awhile. Use Skype for video or FT if you have it. Lots of people do this all the time but it may be new to some. Especially older people. Teach them how to use it so you can make them feel not alone during this time. You can even just text them photos of you and your loved ones and tell them what you are doing that day.
  13. TAXES: wow this is kind of terrible to mention isn’t it? Because it is NOT fun. Well not for me…I do not get any money back. Many might and that may be super helpful right now. Now is a great time to get your taxes dealt with in next few weeks. Lots of people can do this online so it can be done without face to face contact. It will feel GOOD once you have them done and help you feel like you are controlling something.
  14. BE FUCKING NICE: Yes this should have been number 1 eh? Especially to retail employees at stores right now. This is likely going to be one of their worst few weeks to month ever working during this. Find your center of compassion and USE IT. Maybe if you even have money to spare give them a $5 starbucks gift card. Little acts of kindness go A LONG WAY. Do not HOARD supplies at the store. I absolutely promise if you do run out of toilet paper you have running water and dish rags right? Clean your butt and wash the rags in a separate load of laundry. I know this seems like rocket science but people did it before toilet paper and you can too.
  15. MAKE A LIST: Of all the things you have been wanting to get too but have not had the time. I actually keep a running list on my home whiteboard of things that I can do when I have some extra time. Now I will be able to really dive into that list. Everyone’s list will look different! I want to hang some twinkly lights in a room, clean off my winter boots (horses! haha) and paint a fence. I have way more on that list but I wanted to show some of my own ideas so you can see well…they are quite mundane but they will keep me occupied!

    I can’t wait to hear what ideas YOU have and maybe I will add them to my list! Please know I’m not giving any medical advice in this blog, I’m keeping that to the professionals. There is quite a few great posts out there about how to stay safe, healthy and not pass germs. Please stay home if you are sick. Contact anyone you know to bring you supplies OR order online from the grocery store and pick up at the curb. Together we will all get through this and help prevent the further spread of CO19. Find your center of calm and know that this too shall pass. Nothing lasts forever-but we can use this situation as a catalyst for change.

    Thank you for joining me here!

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My TOP 10 Tips and Tricks for Models!

I’ve been thinking about this blog post for awhile AND I will be making one for clients too next week. Some things seem second nature to me but may not to someone else. After being in the online industry for 12 years now I know it is harder than ever to be seen with the influx of models who want to try their hand at webcamming, being a dominatrix, findom etc. You do not need any special formal training to be successful. You need consistency, work ethic and drive. OH and a whole lot of SELF motivation-working from home is not for the faint of heart. Distractions abound. But here are some top 10 personal tips to get you started!

  1. Have a social media presence. Some top models get away with not being active on social media and still are in the top sellers on clip sites. This is not the norm. Social media verifies you as a real person, someone people can connect with and gives you a platform to show off your personality. Currently Twitter seems to be the safest place for SW to have an account. Make sure you read the TOS (terms of service) and follow the rules. I personally do not post any nudity but many others do. I try to keep it PG as to now get shadowbanned or in what is called “Twitter Jail”. Instagram is very tough to keep an account on. I personally do not waste my time there though some have been successful. Obviously (but maybe not to some) Facebook is a big no. Some models also have success on YouTube BUT they have a strict TOS and please be aware that this is the area where people of ALL ages are on a lot and if you are keeping your work a secret from family/friends then YouTube is a platform where it is more likely for you to be found by unsuspecting acquaintances.

    If you are finding it hard to post daily on social media you can use different apps to que posts in advance. OR connect your auto tweet sales to fill in the gaps from your iwantclips, clips4sale or manyvid stores. Some models make a seperate account for this as some believe it creates a shadowban on your account with auto sales-I have mine on and do not have an issue but I make sure to be VERY active to balance it out. Make sure you interact with your peers, answer back clients and show off who you are on social media. All without divulging too much personal information. Everyone has their own fine line of what this means to them.
  2. One of my favorite comfort tricks is having a heating blanket on high under me as I’m recording customs videos or taking an online session. Sitting in tiny clothing especially if you live in a state with winter can be tough and it personally helps me mentally to be warm while working. If you are in a warm state you could try ice packs under a blanket covered by a towel if you lack AC and fans make too much noise. I run a little cold, others have different bodies and may run warm.
  3. Have at least ONE clip site that you sell on. This is a great way to verify your age, credibility and show off your interests and skills in clips videos. The current front runners in clip sites are: iwantclips, clips4sale , manyvids. and niteflirt. Each site has slightly different clientele. It’s always best to not put all your eggs in one basket either as the saying goes BUT starting somewhere with at least one clip site will get you organic traffic. Make sure to read each sites TOS and follow the rules. Getting banned from a site means getting banned from revenue there. It is generally not allowed to link to other sites on another. For example do not send someone who emailed you on iwantclips to your niteflirt or give them your email and say to email you elsewhere. Sites like to keep their business ON their site for the benefit of all parties. Safety, customer service and proper payment processing helps everyone have fun properly. Especially if you are new and learning the ropes.
  4. I’m a VERY organized person. If my things are not organized I mentally feel like I might fall apart. Organization is going to save you time and time again. You will get work done faster, find items needed for work sooner and generally feel more in control of your business. I recommend setting time aside to keep things organized every single month. This means organizing taxes, lingerie, sexy toys (keeping them clean!) bedroom and lighting set up etc.
  5. I want to continue the organization tip here with the organizing of videos and pictures on your computer. Stay organized from the very beginning if you can. This will save you an insurmountable amount of time. All my clips are organized per the category I released them in. Such as “jerk off instruction” or “CEI” etc. I can find all my videos VERY easily within a few minutes. I did not always have them this way so take my tip and get those things organized. That way when you also join a new site in the future it is very easy to find everything. I keep my photos organized as well (but honestly not *as* well) into the different months of the year, if it was a specific photo set I name it etc.
  6. HAVE AN EXTERNAL HARD DRIVE. With ALL your content on it and keep it updated. Some even have a back up of that. I keep NOTHING on my computer desktop unless it is being uploaded. Right after that it is moved to a safer place.

    Tip off a tip…the other great thing about hosting content on a clips site is if you lose all your videos, you can download your content back to a new computer or hard drive from your accounts. You may have to send the site an email about it for access to that (I think that is clips4sale) BUT look at it as a second free data base for your work in case something fails.
  7. You do not have to do what everyone else is doing. I repeat…you do not have to do what everyone else is doing. What works for one model may not work for you. Don’t get discouraged. It takes time, patience and consistency to grow a business. Every single year I have been in this business I make sure I further my skills in a variety of areas, update my technology and reinvent myself. Staying stagnant won’t get you growth. Keep evolving. The internet is full of free information if you do not have funds to invest in books or courses. YouTube can teach you a lot. Use your resources. But do not ever steal from others.
  8. To continue the above tip further: Some models are on EVERY single site, monetizing every single avenue of their life and you wonder how they do it. Well, they might have help or they might just have high anxiety. I personally do just about everything myself. You do not have to offer everything. I personally do not like offering up my personal clothing for sale (often) and I do not do a lot of live online sessions anymore unless I have a larger free time block. Others LOVE doing online sessions and selling their clothing. Don’t feel bad if it does not work out for you like it may them. There is something else that you can be just as good at. We all have our strength. Doing things out of your comfort zone will bring you strife later. Pushing boundaries of yourself unsafely will bring you the wrong clients. You can say no.
    I understand some do things they may not want too and are in survival mode. I’m sending those models love, I know it’s so tough to be in positions of deciding against desires vs food and shelter. The message is to do what you need too, that works for you, that works for your situation. Don’t over do it if you can help it. It’s easy to get married to the job when there is a possibility of money at any time of the night and day. Balance is key to success. Remember, everyone’s version of success is different. Don’t compare yourself…but use others success as personal motivation. We can all win!
  9. KEEP YOUR WORK ROOM CLEAN! This is a huge pet peeve of mine and I know cleaning may not be what everyone is good at BUT a distraction free space to work in will provide and reward you with more time in the end for either work or play. I’m a naturally clean freak of a person and this comes easy to me. It may not to others. If you are not good at it I suggest once again maybe YouTube can have some free resources to help you learn how to learn, organize and decorate in a non distracting way. A cheap way to organize is with clear plastic drawer containers. Panties in one drawer, bras another, outfits another etc. I personally have a lot of outfits hung up on the clip style velvet hangers and when it comes time to work it is a lot easier to decide what to wear when I have an entire outfit ready to go at a moments notice. It takes me a slim amount of time to prep for a show or videos long as I…you guessed it-stay organized.

    Tip in a tip-another cheap way to decorate is by visiting thrift stores. Especially if you are just starting out. Pinterest board a variety of ideas for yourself and then have fun browsing second hand used goods. Ebay can also be a great place to score some new or gently used items at cheap prices if you live somewhere where the shopping is not that great.
  10. BE YOURSELF! Staying true to yourself, your brand, your business is so important. You may not know what that looks like when you first start out and it will evolve. Sit down and write out your goals, what you would like to accomplish. What parts of you would you like to share. I’ve found that showing off the well rounded person that I’m (artist and avid horse back rider) really helps clients connect with me, want to help me invest in my hobbies and really get to know ME better. This job is about CONNECTION. If you hate people and working with them this may not be a good career for you. If you enjoy learning about people in a quickly growing every changing industry then you will have fun. This industry is not dying-it’s evolving. I personally believe the future is customized experiences. People love exploring themselves and having a non biased person to help them with that.

    I’m SO blessed every single day that I get to do what I do. I work very hard at it, every single day and have since 2008. But remember-time off is just as important. Make sure you have hobbies and friends who get you out of the house. Work life balance will look different for us all. Find what works for you. Remember-if you fail at something that is a huge help-you know not to do it again or to maybe tweak the idea and try again. All of us are humans who are constantly learning every single day. Brush yourself off and try again, sometimes a good cry and a hot bath will set you in a new direction.

    Thanks for reading and if you have a great tip (it was so hard to keep it to 10! and I’m already planning a Part 2!) Please share off this blog posting on Twitter and I might add it to the bottom of this blog and link your twitter!
    Sincerely-MistressVictoria

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Cam Girl Tip Tuesday 3

Welcome to a new series on my blog! Every Tuesday (that I remember or have time) I’m going to give cam/adult models tips I’ve learned over the years. I can’t give it all away but I can share a little bit *wink

Tip #3. You don’t have to be friends with every other model. Do your own thing. Grow your business. Most the time other models are not into friendships for mutual enjoyment. Lots of them are in it for personal gain, promotion etc. Align yourself with people who have similar interests, ideas and morals. Be careful who you surround yourself with as you can possibly be judged by those relationships. Stay positive. Not every day, week or month is going to be your best. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are not them. Be you and be successful doing so.

A lot of what models are saying on their twitter may not even be true. Just because you’ve never received an anonymous 200,000 token tip on myfreecams does not mean you are a failure. Have your own goals in mind, work to make them come to life. Your life needs to be lived for you. Do not be so busy making a living to forget to make a life.

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#lifehacks for men 2

Holding open doors for any lady will get your brownie points I don’t care of you are the Beast or have a hump back. I don’t care of you know the woman, hate her or want to take her home. Chivalry in day to day life seems to be dead these days and if you have it, kudos.

I always love finding old vintage photographs of men when they wore suits, pocket chains with watches and had those lovely mustaches. I kick myself for not buying one I found at good will the other day. Sometimes I think I’m born into the wrong era but since in this day and age I won’t be stoned to death for showing off my erotic side maybe it’s all working out.

I feel a lot of sexual things still happened like they do today, it was just a lot more hush hush. As the world grows more things are becoming common place or not as taboo as they once were.

So for early 1900’s sake, please hold open doors for women. We will all thank you.

P.S. A man let a door slam into my shoulder the other day. -humph-

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Cam Girl Tip Tuesday

Welcome to a new series on my blog! Every Tuesday I’m going to give cam/adult models tips I’ve learned over the years. I can’t give it all away but I can share a little bit *wink

Complaining.Bitching.Whining.
C O N S T A N T E L Y
Is horrible for your own self esteem and your business.
Everyone has a bad day BUT to tote about it on twitter on the daily is going to lose you credibility. Contrary to popular belief on social media, you do.not.need.to.share.EVERYTHING!

There are many days and many instances in my life that I would love to have a social media breakdown. Or even here on my blog. I even go so far as to type entire blogs out that I than delete because I realize that is not who I want to be. Being positive in the face of adversity will help you climb out of whatever hole you are in much faster than being negative. This is something I work on and evolve even for myself. BE POSITIVE. Not every day is going to be a good day, personally, publicly or on cam. Realize that is the time, hour, day or maybe a week or month that you need to regroup inside your mind and protect your mental health.

Remember why people come to see you online. They want a break from their own day or their own reality for a little while. YOU are the entertainment they choose to follow, support and spend maybe their hard earned fun money on. If you are not being fun, that fun money probably won’t come your way long. Maybe at first in a way of pity but in the long run people will find someone else who has a smile, a positive message and a good attitude to latch onto. Positivity ATTRACTS people, ideas and general awesomeness.

So get out there, be positive, take days off when you need and always think “Do I need to post that my BMW has a scratch wah wah wah?!” when I could leave that out and say “LOVE YOU GUYS THANKS FOR EVERYTHING!” and your followers will smile as you both had a positive impact on each others days. yay! *highs fives you all*

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Q/A!

Q. MissMirand’sPet ‏@MayorofMilperra Nov 1

@MissVikkiLynn Miss Vikki I’m having trouble getting my wife to commit to any long term F/m domiantion/lifestyle, any tips?
A: Is your wife into being dominate? or more submissive? A switch? It’s important to know each partners likes and dislikes or things they are at least willing to try. A lot of women are probably very uneducated into the world of BDSM just for mere fact of no one ever bringing it into play in their life sexually or casually-or maybe only read the famed “50 shades of grey” books. I know I was at one point as well-there is so much to learn. I think a lot of what is portrayed in the D/s life style can be really daunting or scary to a new comer. So starting with the basics with a book (quite a few on Amazon-this one here is great: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1890159190/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) can be helpful. If you and your wife are in a relationship where you can talk frankly and freely and she is not shy about sex or what both your desires are then this will be easier. Some couples have a harder time expressing new kinks for fear of a negative connotation.
I would encourage some reading about the subject-for both of you! Then talking about a type of “scene” you both would be comfortable playing out. Set aside a night of no stress, a nice dinner and time to play out a session you both have agreed upon. It could be a lot more fun than either of you realize OR at the very least you can find out that it was not for you and try something else next time. Keep expectations low and be able to respond to your partners needs. If both people are not satisfied with the situation because of forced expectations or high hopes there will be less of a chance of it happening again.
Good luck-keep an open mind. *wink
PS: I also wrote a blog similar to this question that may be helpful: ‘The misconceptions of domination and my own personal reflections: http://missvikkiserotica.blogspot.com/2014/10/the-misconceptions-of-domination-and-my.html

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