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Things to do, when you think you have nothing to do because of CO19

I do hope that next year at this same time I can reveal and feel blessed in the idea that we are not dealing with this sort of situation. This is certainly a one of a kind experience that none of us were expecting. I do not want to replicate this again in my life time. This year has been a hard one for many. I myself do not take the changing of a year as a tipping point of difference. I use all year around as a self motivation to seek to better myself and the world around me. While it is perfectly okay to use a new year to motivate, I just want people to not get caught up in the idea a new year should have meant a better one. I believe humans get caught up in the control of time. When time is changing, infinite and out of our control. Time is a man made construct. Lets not get stuck on the idea that 2020 should have been a year that things changed, instead we can become aware that our current situation has spurred the need for the very things that are unjust in this world and should be changed.

I also want to touch on those who are making light of the situation with jokes. That is not my aim with this blog posting. Many of our fellow humans are immune compromised, sick, pregnant, cancer, elderly etc. This is a very real threat to them. We must change our habits to protect others. I’m certain most of us have someone who falls under the high risk category. During this time we should be reaching out to others to assist best of our ability.

Remember to breathe deeply, get extra sleep, drink lots of water and try to eat well. Find a center of calm and do not let panic spur your reactions or conversations with others. Preparing the best you can will lessen any anxiety. Grab some extra food if possible or contact the right people if you are in need of help from community for food.

I wanted to initially make this blog so I could share a list of ideas to keep people busy. I know our brains can get caught up in gerbil wheel and not think straight during times of uncertainty. If you have an idea please comment on twitter below and I might add it in! I realize some of these ideas do take income and not everyone will have expendable income at this time. I’m sending everyone love and light as I know this is an uneasy time. I hope you can find something useful here for yourself.

  1. CLEAN YOUR VEHICLES: Now is a really great time to clean out your car. REALLY GOOD. Since our cars take us lots of places and therefor are also coming in contact with places and others through this means. Planning to give your car a deep interior clean is a great idea and way to pass the time. Turn on some great music (not the news!) and find it as a way of meditating while getting a task done that many find hard to find time for usually. My car is usually the last place I have time to give a deep clean so I’m planning this myself likely next week.
  2. GET OUTSIDE: This is very important. (long as this is allowed in your country/city/state) If you can not get outside, sit by an open window. Nature and fresh air is very good for our immune systems. Make sure you stay warm, scarfs around the neck are great way to have something to pull up over your face too if going by or around others. Turn on some music (not the news!) or just quietly meditate as you walk, run or maybe just enjoy laying outside on a blanket.
  3. BOOKS PODCASTS MAGAZINES: Now is a great time to catch up on all that reading or listening material that you think about doing during the work day. Watching other peoples podcasts are also very helpful on youtube as views can generate income for those who use youtube as a stream of income. I have quite a few artists that I can’t wait to dive into their podcasts during this time. (I’m trying to stay positive) Many artists also have online classes! Adding another thread for that:
  4. ONLINE CLASSES: I do not mean college necessarily or at all. Many entrepreneurs have access to online classes that can be purchased one at a time or as bundles (which usually give a discount). Artists, musicians, cosplayers, tarot card readers etc. All these type of things can be done remotely. This will also help creatives as being self employed especially now can be quite volatile.
  5. RESTAURANT GIFT CARDS: To help small business-I saw this today and thought it was a super sweet gesture for those that can afford it. To support your local (community owned, I’m not worried about chains) restaurants who may have to close soon, buy a gift card now and use it later when things start to improve. They can use the money now and you can use your gift card later. It will be something to look forward too. Take a friend out, significant other or maybe by then you’ll have arranged a date!
  6. MENTAL HEALTH: Many providers will allow or have access to a session ONLINE. Make sure you carve out time to talk to someone if you need too. Just being able to get it all out, have a good cry and have someone be there for you and a voice of reason is good. If you do not have a therapist maybe ask a friend if it’s okay if you can discuss some of your fears with them right now. (not everyone has the head space to do so, please be respectful of others mental health as well)
  7. PAINT A ROOM: Or two or three? Grab some paint for your house. Do you need a room painted and just have not had the time? Now is a great time to start a project that does not invest a ton of money but can keep you occupied. Make sure you get all the right supplies. Painters tape, the right paint, brushes and rollers. I have a few rooms that could use touched up so this is something I’m going to plan for myself. Don’t forget your baseboards especially if they are white like mine. (UGH! haha) ALSO:
  8. SMALL HOME REPAIRS: This is a great time to make your spring home repair list of small things you can do yourself and or know someone you can pay if they need the income and are talented in that department. Grab those supplies in the next few days as it might be possible that some businesses will close. Spring is starting many places and if you have a yard a lot can be accomplished. The entire process will help your mind and be a great way to help your body by being outside. Maybe you want to even plan a super small garden this year? I’ve been wanting too for years and have not had the time. This year might just be my year!
  9. HOBBY TIME: I’m sure we all have a hobby we wish we had a bit more time for. To learn about or actually do. Youtube is a great place to learn more about a hobby and how to do it, the right supplies needed etc. It is also a free resource. Maybe you have a lot of supplies for your hobby already? Now is a great time to organize them. Hobbies can be lots of things: baking, painting, singing, learning an instrument, writing and gee…the list could go on!
  10. ORGANIZE: I’m super big on an organized household but working from home I’m always meddling in improving that somewhere in my house. If you are home and can not work now is a great time to organize literally…everything. Closets, drawers, the kitchen, bathroom etc. Not good at organizing? Lots of free articles and ideas online on youtube, pinterest and lots of blogs and websites. Organizing is also a great way to mentally clear your mind. The less stuff we have laying around that we don’t use or need the more our minds are free to be wild and play. Don’t forget your garage! Or maybe you have a storage unit. ALSO:
  11. BOXES/DONATIONS: Get some boxes while you are organizing, leave one in each room or in the hallway by multiple rooms. Have an “unsure box” “don’t want box” “give to friends box” etc so on and so forth. OR just donate it all to a charity once it is allowed to do so. (Since I realize many will be closed) BUT you can go through your things and have it ready for when the time comes.
  12. FACETIME! PHONECALLS! Since face to face communication is not going to be possible now is the time to (sorry if you hate phone calls I know that can give some people anxiety!) call and check in on your friends you may have not been able to for awhile. Use Skype for video or FT if you have it. Lots of people do this all the time but it may be new to some. Especially older people. Teach them how to use it so you can make them feel not alone during this time. You can even just text them photos of you and your loved ones and tell them what you are doing that day.
  13. TAXES: wow this is kind of terrible to mention isn’t it? Because it is NOT fun. Well not for me…I do not get any money back. Many might and that may be super helpful right now. Now is a great time to get your taxes dealt with in next few weeks. Lots of people can do this online so it can be done without face to face contact. It will feel GOOD once you have them done and help you feel like you are controlling something.
  14. BE FUCKING NICE: Yes this should have been number 1 eh? Especially to retail employees at stores right now. This is likely going to be one of their worst few weeks to month ever working during this. Find your center of compassion and USE IT. Maybe if you even have money to spare give them a $5 starbucks gift card. Little acts of kindness go A LONG WAY. Do not HOARD supplies at the store. I absolutely promise if you do run out of toilet paper you have running water and dish rags right? Clean your butt and wash the rags in a separate load of laundry. I know this seems like rocket science but people did it before toilet paper and you can too.
  15. MAKE A LIST: Of all the things you have been wanting to get too but have not had the time. I actually keep a running list on my home whiteboard of things that I can do when I have some extra time. Now I will be able to really dive into that list. Everyone’s list will look different! I want to hang some twinkly lights in a room, clean off my winter boots (horses! haha) and paint a fence. I have way more on that list but I wanted to show some of my own ideas so you can see well…they are quite mundane but they will keep me occupied!

    I can’t wait to hear what ideas YOU have and maybe I will add them to my list! Please know I’m not giving any medical advice in this blog, I’m keeping that to the professionals. There is quite a few great posts out there about how to stay safe, healthy and not pass germs. Please stay home if you are sick. Contact anyone you know to bring you supplies OR order online from the grocery store and pick up at the curb. Together we will all get through this and help prevent the further spread of CO19. Find your center of calm and know that this too shall pass. Nothing lasts forever-but we can use this situation as a catalyst for change.

    Thank you for joining me here!

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The audacity…

Lately it seems this situation has been happening a lot…I also know it happens to other women who find it equally as irritating and laughable as I do.

Men emailing…tweeting at me…saying how I need to change things I’m doing. Men who are not women…who do not work my job. Know my life, my time for work or frankly anything much about me at all.

I was told recently my website here was fairly awful. (lol…mmm it’s a blog, that is free that I have no obligation to even have, I do it for a multitude of reasons. I don’t need to elaborate)

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Much wow.

Don’t you think that after approaching 9 years in the industry I’ve been offered a website a few hundred times by people? Yes…yes I (we) have. But we have NO INTEREST AT THIS TIME. Don’t you think that with everything I sole manage that I could figure out how to get a website up.

That is great you think I could do better…let me tell you something. I’m doing just fine, I’m doing wonderful…sales are great, compliments on customs are great, I have goals for the future in the industry.

Goals that do not include men who think they are helping Me when they are merely not only wasting my time but also thinking that I must not be doing well because I’m not doing things how they would?

Que the laughing…

Yes there are different stages of being professional. I don’t feel at this time I need a fancy website because frankly I don’t have the time. Why would I do that and then not be able to maintain it…that level of lack of professionalism would be much more detrimental then the “awful” looking blog you think I have now. There are many different facets of the adult industry, I create and maintain what is in line with my needs, time and future desires.

I have a: twitter, 2 emails, a pornhub account, a FREE blog, 3 clips4sale stores, 2 iwantclip stores, a niteflirt, chatstar, skype sessions, 2 art websites w/multiple contracts…but you think I need to do something else?

L O L O L

And that is just adult work…the amount of responsibilities and things I have to juggle outside this career would shock most. But I don’t need to talk about it. Because it’s my personal business.

I’d like to say I appreciate that so many men want to come forward by first negatively commenting on what I do now and then turning around and trying to offer a free service after is touching…I would. But well I can’t…because it’s not.

In an industry with a burn out rate of 1-3 years and I’m approaching a decade…perhaps one would think I have a handle on my business, what I can handle and how it looks. I know I do, it’s time you did too.

I evolve over time, my business evolves over time…I’ll use the services and hire the people I see fit to have it continue as long as I choose to be in this career.

The last thing I need is another email or tweet about what I should change. From a man…who does not support my business…who is not a woman and has not physically/emotionally/mentally worked in the sex industry.

In all business some may think you should welcome feedback…I sure do on a certain level…from those who PURCHASE and SUPPORT that business. In a private setting that is meant to uplift and encourage more creation. Or to actually BE helpful.

It’s pretty pathetic that I would even think I had to write how one should correctly address someone they look up too, especially  in female domination about how they could make their business better.

“hello Goddess, I noticed such and such and thought how wonderful it would be if it matched such and such and I would so love to help if you are interested. I currently love everything you do and will continue to support it either way. thank you Goddess, I sent a tribute for taking up your time to read this”

Now that is something I would entertain.

I’m still here because I really do what I love and put as much time into as I can. No one forced me to do this job and no one is going to force me to do things I don’t have time for, don’t feel ready for or just plain don’t line up with my visions/marketing/goals.

I’m a human being…and I’m on my own journey…taking it at my own pace. I’m not here to live up to your personal standards.

To those who support, revere and love being on this rollercoaster of female domination life with me…thank you. Thank you for understanding that what I have to give is enough and enjoying every stage of change…that it comes at the pace I’m most comfortable with so that I’m giving the best of myself at that time.

Cheers…

MV

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Cam Girl Tip Tuesday 3

Welcome to a new series on my blog! Every Tuesday (that I remember or have time) I’m going to give cam/adult models tips I’ve learned over the years. I can’t give it all away but I can share a little bit *wink

Tip #3. You don’t have to be friends with every other model. Do your own thing. Grow your business. Most the time other models are not into friendships for mutual enjoyment. Lots of them are in it for personal gain, promotion etc. Align yourself with people who have similar interests, ideas and morals. Be careful who you surround yourself with as you can possibly be judged by those relationships. Stay positive. Not every day, week or month is going to be your best. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are not them. Be you and be successful doing so.

A lot of what models are saying on their twitter may not even be true. Just because you’ve never received an anonymous 200,000 token tip on myfreecams does not mean you are a failure. Have your own goals in mind, work to make them come to life. Your life needs to be lived for you. Do not be so busy making a living to forget to make a life.

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Q&A! Female Domination

Q: CROMWELL@chris1mma

@MissVikkiLynn What was your first real femdom experience like, how did you feel?
A: When I was a teenager, I never knew what “female domination” was per say but I have many experiences that lead me to know it is how I’ve always been. Being in the adult industry since age 20 really has helped me be able to find more of myself in this area of things.
I touched on this before briefly in a blog, I remember specifically “seducing” and making very nervous my 16 year old boyfriend one day though nothing sexual even happened. I like to be in control and I like to make a man squirm and not know what he should be doing. He loses control, I win and get what I want. Whatever that is. Mutual enjoyment I’m sure.As for how I feel or felt…I feel deliciously mischievous and satisfied with the level of control I have.

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