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The Presence of Personality

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Yesterday I tweeted about social media and personality. Lately I have seen a lot of women complaining venting social media is not helpful to them, twitter is dead, why bother etc.  I joined twitter in April 2010. I’ve been consistently active since. I feel it’s a great place to connect. So there is that word “connect”. I feel it is very important. If you are a domme, a sub, into vanilla or fetish-it does not matter it comes down to a few important words. Connect being one.

You want a fan base yes? you want people to follow you and what you are doing, keep up with your latest updates (blogs, clips, sessions etc) Well, how will you do that? You probably already know that answer…social media. So you pick your poison (twitter, instagram, facebook etc) And you start to carve out who you are, what you like, what you have to offer etc. People stumble across you, get recommended to you, follow you from seeing you live on cam, buying your clips etc. Some will just stay in background not conversing etc. Others will enjoy you so much they decide to tip, spend, support. This is a natural ebb and flow really. Just like any other service people like. Some will be in the background others in the foreground.

Why did they do this-find, follow, support…Well, because you showed your personality. They felt connected. This is not rocket science. (sorry not sorry) The biggest wave in porn is the ability to connect and really get to know people better.

Personality is important. It’s more important than that nude photo you just posted. Than that link to your blog. Adult work, especially online, is becoming more and more about the connection your client base feels to you and your work. They are going to feel connected not by just photos but by your personality. I feel this is a hang up for many. Especially because online perhaps certain aspects of ourselves are either hidden, not as desirable to our market or just don’t line up with work. (This is not any different -in many ways- than other jobs that civilians hold that they can’t come home and discuss their work or private lives clients etc) So therefore you have to become a personality that reflects a different essence of yourself. I can’t hold your hand in this and neither can anyone else. Copying someone else won’t get you very far either. If you want to make adult work work than a natural evolution of self is important. (more on that in a separate soon to come blog.

The point of this is that social media is a huge part of being successful for the long term. When I’m on twitter it’s fun to me but it’s also a part of my work and staying connected. Social media works in so many ways. I responded to a few tweets from people I did not know last week who ended up purchasing custom videos. The longing to feel connected is far from dead. Connection is created by your presence and personality.  This is a lot of work and a lot of every day involvement. Being self employed this is one of the areas that help keep you in the foreground.

This goes for any business really, in a world full of nudity and noise seconds away from a click…there HAS to be something else that creates feeling for those who really are worth investing in. Will that be you?

Anyone can be naked, not everyone can have a personality.  Both is golden in porn.

(Please note these are merely my opinions. I’ve been in the industry going on 9 years now. I’m here because I enjoy what I do and I enjoy connection. This career path is not for the lackluster or half assers. This is serious every day work that pays off in the long run (be smart, save, pay taxes on time) as long as YOU are willing to be personal, connected, self motivated and always willing to learn and evolve.)

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look like this…

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The audacity…

Lately it seems this situation has been happening a lot…I also know it happens to other women who find it equally as irritating and laughable as I do.

Men emailing…tweeting at me…saying how I need to change things I’m doing. Men who are not women…who do not work my job. Know my life, my time for work or frankly anything much about me at all.

I was told recently my website here was fairly awful. (lol…mmm it’s a blog, that is free that I have no obligation to even have, I do it for a multitude of reasons. I don’t need to elaborate)

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Much wow.

Don’t you think that after approaching 9 years in the industry I’ve been offered a website a few hundred times by people? Yes…yes I (we) have. But we have NO INTEREST AT THIS TIME. Don’t you think that with everything I sole manage that I could figure out how to get a website up.

That is great you think I could do better…let me tell you something. I’m doing just fine, I’m doing wonderful…sales are great, compliments on customs are great, I have goals for the future in the industry.

Goals that do not include men who think they are helping Me when they are merely not only wasting my time but also thinking that I must not be doing well because I’m not doing things how they would?

Que the laughing…

Yes there are different stages of being professional. I don’t feel at this time I need a fancy website because frankly I don’t have the time. Why would I do that and then not be able to maintain it…that level of lack of professionalism would be much more detrimental then the “awful” looking blog you think I have now. There are many different facets of the adult industry, I create and maintain what is in line with my needs, time and future desires.

I have a: twitter, 2 emails, a pornhub account, a FREE blog, 3 clips4sale stores, 2 iwantclip stores, a niteflirt, chatstar, skype sessions, 2 art websites w/multiple contracts…but you think I need to do something else?

L O L O L

And that is just adult work…the amount of responsibilities and things I have to juggle outside this career would shock most. But I don’t need to talk about it. Because it’s my personal business.

I’d like to say I appreciate that so many men want to come forward by first negatively commenting on what I do now and then turning around and trying to offer a free service after is touching…I would. But well I can’t…because it’s not.

In an industry with a burn out rate of 1-3 years and I’m approaching a decade…perhaps one would think I have a handle on my business, what I can handle and how it looks. I know I do, it’s time you did too.

I evolve over time, my business evolves over time…I’ll use the services and hire the people I see fit to have it continue as long as I choose to be in this career.

The last thing I need is another email or tweet about what I should change. From a man…who does not support my business…who is not a woman and has not physically/emotionally/mentally worked in the sex industry.

In all business some may think you should welcome feedback…I sure do on a certain level…from those who PURCHASE and SUPPORT that business. In a private setting that is meant to uplift and encourage more creation. Or to actually BE helpful.

It’s pretty pathetic that I would even think I had to write how one should correctly address someone they look up too, especially  in female domination about how they could make their business better.

“hello Goddess, I noticed such and such and thought how wonderful it would be if it matched such and such and I would so love to help if you are interested. I currently love everything you do and will continue to support it either way. thank you Goddess, I sent a tribute for taking up your time to read this”

Now that is something I would entertain.

I’m still here because I really do what I love and put as much time into as I can. No one forced me to do this job and no one is going to force me to do things I don’t have time for, don’t feel ready for or just plain don’t line up with my visions/marketing/goals.

I’m a human being…and I’m on my own journey…taking it at my own pace. I’m not here to live up to your personal standards.

To those who support, revere and love being on this rollercoaster of female domination life with me…thank you. Thank you for understanding that what I have to give is enough and enjoying every stage of change…that it comes at the pace I’m most comfortable with so that I’m giving the best of myself at that time.

Cheers…

MV

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Odd Interactions V.2

Shopping, checking out.

Man standing next to me when line is behind me (I think he thinks lines don’t apply to him) he starts to strike up a conversation about what I’m buying and how someone will enjoy it…I smile and say yes. He continues to stare…then he starts to talk about something else I’m buying. The man has to be about 25 years my senior, albeit a “hot daddy type with salt and pepper in his hair” to some, I know better. LOL. So I take out my keys with my kitty dagger and start to attach my maze to the keychain as he babbles on. Then he stops.

Hint taken? Perhaps so. He got into line.

No need to strike up a conversation while I’m trying to check out with a line behind us. Some “interactions” are past nice and just plain “odd”.

(you can find all of these “odd” interactions on my blog by typing “odd” in the search engine on my site”. Some are more entertaining than others, enjoy.)

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My #femdom quotes

I’m a busy, bad ass bitch. Set yourself apart, show worthiness to release My energy and time in your direction + be grateful for it.

The best way to show Me your legit interest is to tribute, even small amounts can catch My Attention and create a positive reaction.

I’m what your subconscious warns you about-but can’t resist-it feels too good 

Can you handle it…come on…try. Bitch boy.

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welcome.

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why are you here? what are you doing for Me today? Do something useful for Me. Tribute, buy clips, send a gift card, write a review if you’ve bought a custom, proof read My clip sites for any typos…

It’s not that hard…go on now. you can do it, go binge on my clips.

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Impress Me.

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I speak to you in ways you can’t explain. you want to strive to do more for Me. Less for yourself. Hand over your life, little by little. It is so refreshing to be powerless, you don’t have to worry about making any decisions. I’ll handle that.

Fall to your knees

Photo on 10-27-15 at 12.50 PM #5No one compares to me. It’s not just my physical appearance either. I have the entire package. Beauty, brains, power…you are drawn to me like a moth to a flame. are you ready to be drained? cock…balls…wallet…mind. Only I belong in there.

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