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My TOP 10 Tips and Tricks for Models!

I’ve been thinking about this blog post for awhile AND I will be making one for clients too next week. Some things seem second nature to me but may not to someone else. After being in the online industry for 12 years now I know it is harder than ever to be seen with the influx of models who want to try their hand at webcamming, being a dominatrix, findom etc. You do not need any special formal training to be successful. You need consistency, work ethic and drive. OH and a whole lot of SELF motivation-working from home is not for the faint of heart. Distractions abound. But here are some top 10 personal tips to get you started!

  1. Have a social media presence. Some top models get away with not being active on social media and still are in the top sellers on clip sites. This is not the norm. Social media verifies you as a real person, someone people can connect with and gives you a platform to show off your personality. Currently Twitter seems to be the safest place for SW to have an account. Make sure you read the TOS (terms of service) and follow the rules. I personally do not post any nudity but many others do. I try to keep it PG as to now get shadowbanned or in what is called “Twitter Jail”. Instagram is very tough to keep an account on. I personally do not waste my time there though some have been successful. Obviously (but maybe not to some) Facebook is a big no. Some models also have success on YouTube BUT they have a strict TOS and please be aware that this is the area where people of ALL ages are on a lot and if you are keeping your work a secret from family/friends then YouTube is a platform where it is more likely for you to be found by unsuspecting acquaintances.

    If you are finding it hard to post daily on social media you can use different apps to que posts in advance. OR connect your auto tweet sales to fill in the gaps from your iwantclips, clips4sale or manyvid stores. Some models make a seperate account for this as some believe it creates a shadowban on your account with auto sales-I have mine on and do not have an issue but I make sure to be VERY active to balance it out. Make sure you interact with your peers, answer back clients and show off who you are on social media. All without divulging too much personal information. Everyone has their own fine line of what this means to them.
  2. One of my favorite comfort tricks is having a heating blanket on high under me as I’m recording customs videos or taking an online session. Sitting in tiny clothing especially if you live in a state with winter can be tough and it personally helps me mentally to be warm while working. If you are in a warm state you could try ice packs under a blanket covered by a towel if you lack AC and fans make too much noise. I run a little cold, others have different bodies and may run warm.
  3. Have at least ONE clip site that you sell on. This is a great way to verify your age, credibility and show off your interests and skills in clips videos. The current front runners in clip sites are: iwantclips, clips4sale , manyvids. and niteflirt. Each site has slightly different clientele. It’s always best to not put all your eggs in one basket either as the saying goes BUT starting somewhere with at least one clip site will get you organic traffic. Make sure to read each sites TOS and follow the rules. Getting banned from a site means getting banned from revenue there. It is generally not allowed to link to other sites on another. For example do not send someone who emailed you on iwantclips to your niteflirt or give them your email and say to email you elsewhere. Sites like to keep their business ON their site for the benefit of all parties. Safety, customer service and proper payment processing helps everyone have fun properly. Especially if you are new and learning the ropes.
  4. I’m a VERY organized person. If my things are not organized I mentally feel like I might fall apart. Organization is going to save you time and time again. You will get work done faster, find items needed for work sooner and generally feel more in control of your business. I recommend setting time aside to keep things organized every single month. This means organizing taxes, lingerie, sexy toys (keeping them clean!) bedroom and lighting set up etc.
  5. I want to continue the organization tip here with the organizing of videos and pictures on your computer. Stay organized from the very beginning if you can. This will save you an insurmountable amount of time. All my clips are organized per the category I released them in. Such as “jerk off instruction” or “CEI” etc. I can find all my videos VERY easily within a few minutes. I did not always have them this way so take my tip and get those things organized. That way when you also join a new site in the future it is very easy to find everything. I keep my photos organized as well (but honestly not *as* well) into the different months of the year, if it was a specific photo set I name it etc.
  6. HAVE AN EXTERNAL HARD DRIVE. With ALL your content on it and keep it updated. Some even have a back up of that. I keep NOTHING on my computer desktop unless it is being uploaded. Right after that it is moved to a safer place.

    Tip off a tip…the other great thing about hosting content on a clips site is if you lose all your videos, you can download your content back to a new computer or hard drive from your accounts. You may have to send the site an email about it for access to that (I think that is clips4sale) BUT look at it as a second free data base for your work in case something fails.
  7. You do not have to do what everyone else is doing. I repeat…you do not have to do what everyone else is doing. What works for one model may not work for you. Don’t get discouraged. It takes time, patience and consistency to grow a business. Every single year I have been in this business I make sure I further my skills in a variety of areas, update my technology and reinvent myself. Staying stagnant won’t get you growth. Keep evolving. The internet is full of free information if you do not have funds to invest in books or courses. YouTube can teach you a lot. Use your resources. But do not ever steal from others.
  8. To continue the above tip further: Some models are on EVERY single site, monetizing every single avenue of their life and you wonder how they do it. Well, they might have help or they might just have high anxiety. I personally do just about everything myself. You do not have to offer everything. I personally do not like offering up my personal clothing for sale (often) and I do not do a lot of live online sessions anymore unless I have a larger free time block. Others LOVE doing online sessions and selling their clothing. Don’t feel bad if it does not work out for you like it may them. There is something else that you can be just as good at. We all have our strength. Doing things out of your comfort zone will bring you strife later. Pushing boundaries of yourself unsafely will bring you the wrong clients. You can say no.
    I understand some do things they may not want too and are in survival mode. I’m sending those models love, I know it’s so tough to be in positions of deciding against desires vs food and shelter. The message is to do what you need too, that works for you, that works for your situation. Don’t over do it if you can help it. It’s easy to get married to the job when there is a possibility of money at any time of the night and day. Balance is key to success. Remember, everyone’s version of success is different. Don’t compare yourself…but use others success as personal motivation. We can all win!
  9. KEEP YOUR WORK ROOM CLEAN! This is a huge pet peeve of mine and I know cleaning may not be what everyone is good at BUT a distraction free space to work in will provide and reward you with more time in the end for either work or play. I’m a naturally clean freak of a person and this comes easy to me. It may not to others. If you are not good at it I suggest once again maybe YouTube can have some free resources to help you learn how to learn, organize and decorate in a non distracting way. A cheap way to organize is with clear plastic drawer containers. Panties in one drawer, bras another, outfits another etc. I personally have a lot of outfits hung up on the clip style velvet hangers and when it comes time to work it is a lot easier to decide what to wear when I have an entire outfit ready to go at a moments notice. It takes me a slim amount of time to prep for a show or videos long as I…you guessed it-stay organized.

    Tip in a tip-another cheap way to decorate is by visiting thrift stores. Especially if you are just starting out. Pinterest board a variety of ideas for yourself and then have fun browsing second hand used goods. Ebay can also be a great place to score some new or gently used items at cheap prices if you live somewhere where the shopping is not that great.
  10. BE YOURSELF! Staying true to yourself, your brand, your business is so important. You may not know what that looks like when you first start out and it will evolve. Sit down and write out your goals, what you would like to accomplish. What parts of you would you like to share. I’ve found that showing off the well rounded person that I’m (artist and avid horse back rider) really helps clients connect with me, want to help me invest in my hobbies and really get to know ME better. This job is about CONNECTION. If you hate people and working with them this may not be a good career for you. If you enjoy learning about people in a quickly growing every changing industry then you will have fun. This industry is not dying-it’s evolving. I personally believe the future is customized experiences. People love exploring themselves and having a non biased person to help them with that.

    I’m SO blessed every single day that I get to do what I do. I work very hard at it, every single day and have since 2008. But remember-time off is just as important. Make sure you have hobbies and friends who get you out of the house. Work life balance will look different for us all. Find what works for you. Remember-if you fail at something that is a huge help-you know not to do it again or to maybe tweak the idea and try again. All of us are humans who are constantly learning every single day. Brush yourself off and try again, sometimes a good cry and a hot bath will set you in a new direction.

    Thanks for reading and if you have a great tip (it was so hard to keep it to 10! and I’m already planning a Part 2!) Please share off this blog posting on Twitter and I might add it to the bottom of this blog and link your twitter!
    Sincerely-MistressVictoria

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Finding Humor in Adult Work

The other day I tweeted asking for ideas about blogs you all feel would be interesting! I always like hearing what you would like to know more about.  Below Jay expresses his interest in hearing more about humor in adult work.  So lets call this an “Interesting Inquisitions” type of blog series.

IMG_8937I think you NEED a sense of humor to stay in this career path. When dealing with the delicate nature of sex and humanity there are lots of things that can go right…and lots of things that can go wrong. The ability to kind of laugh, take a joke or let things roll off you is important. Therefore you need humor in this industry to stay sane (or some version of sane)  Many speak about getting a “tough skin” being in a business that sells beauty.

Though I like to think (and believe) that it’s not just about beauty here, it’s about brains too. (if you plan to survive that is)

For example just today I and countless other online sex workers received an email about how horrible we are, that we need to repent and are whores. So…there is that…and then there is me laughing. What a way to inspire me for a future clip. -golf clap- LOL

I think humor is very sexy. If you can’t make me laugh long term we probably won’t be talking long. Whether it’s from a humiliating custom/session or just every day comical life-I like to laugh. I try to keep the laughing at others expense to when I’m paid for it…(hehe)

-But I do follow this twitter page, I think it’s called “The Darwin Awards” and it’s full of people doing really stupid things. HAHAHA! Certainly makes me feel better about my level of common sense.

Since many sex workers are alienated and judged extensively (and harshly) by society I think it’s important those who work in adult remain light hear-ted as possible about our career choices. Sex, Fetish, Kink etc is all sought out essentially as a feel good experience and to keep it that way must remain positive as possible.

Not to say that some (or all) of us don’t need a dark room and a different city, state to live in sometimes to get away from society well you have to find the humor in that yourself somehow.

As for what makes me laugh I think that is a broad spectrum. TV show wise I like comedies such as Friends or The Big Bang Theory. My sense of humor ranges form very dry to sadistic. I’m forever changing really. Depending on my mood something may be funny today that is not tomorrow!

Watch out…I’m like a cat…one minute I want you to touch me the other minutes I’m leaving a scar on your hand.

Thanks for the question Jay, enjoy. (I think you and I have a date with spin the bottle custom? Let’s see how funny things can get there -wink)

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Porn, it’s everywhere

Even at the doctors office.
While you are getting an ultra sound with one of those wand type instruments that they try to refer to as a tampon (maybe a ultra absorbent tampon? that is 4 ft long?)
Damn, I’m tight. I was allowed the joy of inserting this device myself.
Even with lube I was like, shoving, this device where it was suppose to go.
Que end of horniness for quite some time.

Anyways.
We get on the topic of my art business and shes asking me lots of questions which I so kindly answer. Discussing my contract with stores, other opportunities being on Etsy has brought me.

Then.
Out of left field, she starts talking about her hands and feet and how nice they are-and even her pedicurist tells her every time. And how did I get noticed? Did I submit to an angency?

Vearing back to right field, how does landscape nature art have anything to do with being a foot model I don’t know…

Back to left field. She starts to discuss how she was looking up how to be a foot model and I would not believe everything she came across. “some really creepy stuff” she says. I’m smiling, laughing…she probably thinks she made me nervous when in reality. HELLO. LMFAO. What is my other career?!?!? I can barely contain my laughter even now. As she is waving around this wand before I’ve inserted it.

She said “…and then I thought, well maybe, you know how you see on late night cable -which we don’t usually watch or have a lot of- that one women who made a living off her feet for all these perverts. So I kind of thought about it…”

Me…”you should try it, why not”

She said…”well I just got married 6 months ago-was  married for 30 years then got divorced- I did mention it to my husband and he was like Oh maybe but I just, I don’t know. I don’t think I could do it.

Me… Yea, you never know what people like out there. People love feet, you should try it. -laughs

She says “well, I wonder how I would even submit to a legit agency for that, not the creepy ones…Hmm what would I do, how would I do that?”

Yep, she is asking ME how to submit her feet and hands to a modeling agency. I politely said well if you have a smart phone with a decent camera or a digital take some photos and send them to an agency.

LOLOLOLOLOLOL.

Maybe I should have different business cards made up…. MistressVikki’s Porn Career Counseling

I just can’t even take the irony of the topic of conversation with the doctors office ultra sound tech. I’m laughing an hour later. Like…what? Did I just have a conversation about foot fetish porn with a random lady. LOL. 

And then I encouraged her to get into it.

HAHAHAHA. 

Where are the reality television crews when you need them? Oh that’s right…I said no to that gig. LOL. shit.

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Cam Girl Tip Tuesday 4-Spreading Yourself Too Thin

One thing that being on the internet as a web cam/adult model does it provide you with this mass array of other people doing similar things to what you are through the reaches of social media and viewing them live on cam.
You start to see what so and so is doing, what time she is working, how often she posts new videos and what new site she just joined last week to peddle her wares.
You start thinking to yourself…I could do that. I could sign up there. I could make more monetary income if I had my videos on X, Y and Z sites. What if I started doing this, or that, how about… Wait.

This could be true. But you need to stop and think about your time as well. Is it worth a few extra hundred a month to make sure you have the same videos uploaded, where on another site you are making 10x’s that? To some it may be. To me it came down to the fact I was spreading myself too thin in too many areas on too many sites. Or could I just concentrate on a few things and maybe use that time I wasn’t uploading to make some more content, be live on cam or hell…relax?! Yay.

I also asked my followers before, it was quite some time ago-a year or more, if having my videos on more than one site was confusing and turned them away as they were then confused where I was, which video was where etc. And 95% said yes. Now in the end of course us women running a business should do whats best for ourselves, but we also need to listen to those who are supporting that business as well.

In the end you only know what is best for you. But if you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off (so to speak) feeling tired all the time, anxious, stressed. This person wants that from you, hey join my new site. AHHHH. That can get really hard fast and hello burn out. No one wants to feel burnt out.

In the end you need to do what you enjoy, if you are not enjoying something anymore then re evaluate what you are doing and look for ways to reinvent yourself. Take time for you. You are important. At the end of the day the balance of your bank account may be important to feed, clothe and house yourself…but it does not emulate your worth. Be worthy of knowing what is best for yourself.

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Ciao 2014! So Thankful.

I want to personally thank each and every one of you who has supported me this year. Clips, customs videos, thoughtful gifts and kind words of motivation and compliments galore. Visiting me live on cam and being such good boys, gentlemen and making me so excited for the future of my career here.

I’ve had a lot of changes in my life this year and I’m still evolving to be where I want to be. To live that life of self sufficiency, to be thankful for the small things. I don’t need to “keep up with the Jonses” and I don’t need to be like other providers online.

A big part of happiness and feeling successful is the ability to share myself here. To be real. To even share the moments that hurt or are not as conventional. I thank you all that you are here through everything. Life is ever changing and so am I. Change is what propels us forward, into new things, experiences.

At the end of the day, being down to earth, being kind, caring…REAL…is much more important to me then someone thinking I’m perfect because of the shoes I have, the car I drive or whats in my bank account. Yes I like female domination (genuinely) but I want the time you spend here to add to your life, not take away from it. I want to be an escape, a moment of entertainment and rest. No regrets.

I’m thankful for the up’s and down’s the failures and successes, I think they all make me better. Smarter and stronger. So cheers to 2014 and going into a new year and reflecting on starting anew, I wish you a happy and healthy 2015.

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I’m not in porn…Oh wait…Am I?

This seems to be a debatable topic, always up for discussion and versitile opinions.

I do not think I’m in or do porn, but I’m in the adult entertainment industry. I web cam and make pre-recorded videos for My clips stores. (I’m also an artist with contracts in stores.) Porn to Me is mainstream boy/girl, girl/girl, boy/boy, transgender etc sex scenes and the like.
At this time I only work for Myself (from many different avenues) and with My twin Brooke for videos in Our fetish clips4sale on demand video store.

I seem to have come across quite a few followers who think I do boy/girl porn… I’m confused as I have never tweeted anything remotely close to the idea or action of doing so. I like porn, I watch it occasionally, I support My favorite porn stars by buying their DVD’s etc. I think very highly of women, men, trans in porn who have made a name for themselves, are grounded and well rounded in interests. In this society of social networking it has give us the infinite possibilities of showing so many aspects of ourselves. I think this is great, especially for adult entertainers in whatever genre they do. It shows how human we really all are. As so many try to judge and put us adult workers in a box of despair, drugs and dead ends.
This is so far from the truth. Any job can have those attributes. It takes a strong person to not let those type of things interfere with their actual work, to focus on themselves and their success and passion for the business.

I will take My adult entertainment job, freedom to express My sexuality and time to better Myself and others over wanting to slit My wrists at McDonald’s or some other mindless job. Thankful to live in America where I have these choices.

So if you think I’m in porn that’s great, I’m not offended or going to argue about it with you, because quite possibly I’m in porn….erotica…adult entertainment. Whatever you want to call it, I love making it for you to enjoy. *wink

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