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Communicating Interests

The other day I tweeted asking for ideas about blogs you all feel would be interesting! I always like hearing what you would like to know more about. Below Kelle expresses her interest in hearing more about communicating your interests in adult work.  So lets call this an “Interesting Inquisitions” type of blog series.

IMG_8936Great question!

Many people are socially awkward in person and much better online via email. Or really great in person but really horrible online.  Or on rare occasions you can have someone that is great at both things! (me! or least I can pretend to be good at both…yay acting!)

Either way, here we are, online-so let’s talk about that.

When someone emails me it’s so great when they start with addressing me, introducing themselves and what they are interested in purchasing.  Because in all honesty that is what the prime focus is for me having an email address that I share. The email (at the height of it’s greatness) should resemble something like this:

“Hello Miss Victoria,

I’m a big fan of your work for quite some time and have been purchasing it for awhile. I’m truly interested in a custom video that includes ass worship, cei and some light humiliation. I’m looking for it to be around 10 minutes and or spend X amount at this time. If you are available to produce this desired content for me I would be very thankful. I will patiently await further communication.

Sincerely, -submissive joe”

See does not have to be extremely detailed to start (or even submissive in nature if you are not into that), starting the wave of communication is the second most important part…

What is the first? Why am I doing this backwards?

because that is what most people do… (lol sigh)

FIRST, the most important part of communicating with an online producer that you want to support is reading their blog and or website for information that helps you make a decisions. That is why they have it there. (well it’s why I do at least) My blog for example on custom videos outlines prices, things I’m into, things I’m not into, scene locations etc.

The first and foremost worst thing you can do after reading my blog is emailing me saying: “I know you said you don’t do x, y and x but since you did before in your clip store a few years ago I’m wondering if you’ll -que insane long email with insanely detailed script containing things I already quite clearly said I’m not into doing-

No. No I won’t. Now you’ve just wasted my time, my brain space and capacity to put my neurons towards other uses. I do not, I repeat I do not have to explain to you my choices of why I don’t do things on the no list etc. It’s not your business.

Read my blog/website…learn a little bit about me and what I’m currently about…this will insure that you receive timely responses to the emails you send and a video I can agree to produce that tickles both our fancies.

Many producers receive a lot of emails, it’s helpful but not necessary to send a small token or appreciation when emailing. A tribute or gift card somewhere. This shows that you are indeed serious about a custom video, skype session, clothing purchase etc. I’m not all about nickle and diming people BUT sometimes it can get really daunting for a producer to respond to so many emails that never come to anything. One attached with a tribute can get a lot faster attention.

-attaching said tribute does not make you an alpha god, please act accordingly-as in not like a pompous asshole-

This really is not rocket science but I do admit that some of us don’t think the same as others who may be more adept at communication. I’ve just been doing this for 9 years so to be things appear plain as day but for someone else quite murky. I hope you find this helpful. If you have further ideas you think would add to this blog posting leave a comment in the section below!

To sum this up, read about the producer, coordinate email with introduction, body, signature and be oh so thankful we all here in this industry like to cater to your kinks. 😉

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Finding Humor in Adult Work

The other day I tweeted asking for ideas about blogs you all feel would be interesting! I always like hearing what you would like to know more about.  Below Jay expresses his interest in hearing more about humor in adult work.  So lets call this an “Interesting Inquisitions” type of blog series.

IMG_8937I think you NEED a sense of humor to stay in this career path. When dealing with the delicate nature of sex and humanity there are lots of things that can go right…and lots of things that can go wrong. The ability to kind of laugh, take a joke or let things roll off you is important. Therefore you need humor in this industry to stay sane (or some version of sane)  Many speak about getting a “tough skin” being in a business that sells beauty.

Though I like to think (and believe) that it’s not just about beauty here, it’s about brains too. (if you plan to survive that is)

For example just today I and countless other online sex workers received an email about how horrible we are, that we need to repent and are whores. So…there is that…and then there is me laughing. What a way to inspire me for a future clip. -golf clap- LOL

I think humor is very sexy. If you can’t make me laugh long term we probably won’t be talking long. Whether it’s from a humiliating custom/session or just every day comical life-I like to laugh. I try to keep the laughing at others expense to when I’m paid for it…(hehe)

-But I do follow this twitter page, I think it’s called “The Darwin Awards” and it’s full of people doing really stupid things. HAHAHA! Certainly makes me feel better about my level of common sense.

Since many sex workers are alienated and judged extensively (and harshly) by society I think it’s important those who work in adult remain light hear-ted as possible about our career choices. Sex, Fetish, Kink etc is all sought out essentially as a feel good experience and to keep it that way must remain positive as possible.

Not to say that some (or all) of us don’t need a dark room and a different city, state to live in sometimes to get away from society well you have to find the humor in that yourself somehow.

As for what makes me laugh I think that is a broad spectrum. TV show wise I like comedies such as Friends or The Big Bang Theory. My sense of humor ranges form very dry to sadistic. I’m forever changing really. Depending on my mood something may be funny today that is not tomorrow!

Watch out…I’m like a cat…one minute I want you to touch me the other minutes I’m leaving a scar on your hand.

Thanks for the question Jay, enjoy. (I think you and I have a date with spin the bottle custom? Let’s see how funny things can get there -wink)

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The Presence of Personality

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Yesterday I tweeted about social media and personality. Lately I have seen a lot of women complaining venting social media is not helpful to them, twitter is dead, why bother etc.  I joined twitter in April 2010. I’ve been consistently active since. I feel it’s a great place to connect. So there is that word “connect”. I feel it is very important. If you are a domme, a sub, into vanilla or fetish-it does not matter it comes down to a few important words. Connect being one.

You want a fan base yes? you want people to follow you and what you are doing, keep up with your latest updates (blogs, clips, sessions etc) Well, how will you do that? You probably already know that answer…social media. So you pick your poison (twitter, instagram, facebook etc) And you start to carve out who you are, what you like, what you have to offer etc. People stumble across you, get recommended to you, follow you from seeing you live on cam, buying your clips etc. Some will just stay in background not conversing etc. Others will enjoy you so much they decide to tip, spend, support. This is a natural ebb and flow really. Just like any other service people like. Some will be in the background others in the foreground.

Why did they do this-find, follow, support…Well, because you showed your personality. They felt connected. This is not rocket science. (sorry not sorry) The biggest wave in porn is the ability to connect and really get to know people better.

Personality is important. It’s more important than that nude photo you just posted. Than that link to your blog. Adult work, especially online, is becoming more and more about the connection your client base feels to you and your work. They are going to feel connected not by just photos but by your personality. I feel this is a hang up for many. Especially because online perhaps certain aspects of ourselves are either hidden, not as desirable to our market or just don’t line up with work. (This is not any different -in many ways- than other jobs that civilians hold that they can’t come home and discuss their work or private lives clients etc) So therefore you have to become a personality that reflects a different essence of yourself. I can’t hold your hand in this and neither can anyone else. Copying someone else won’t get you very far either. If you want to make adult work work than a natural evolution of self is important. (more on that in a separate soon to come blog.

The point of this is that social media is a huge part of being successful for the long term. When I’m on twitter it’s fun to me but it’s also a part of my work and staying connected. Social media works in so many ways. I responded to a few tweets from people I did not know last week who ended up purchasing custom videos. The longing to feel connected is far from dead. Connection is created by your presence and personality.  This is a lot of work and a lot of every day involvement. Being self employed this is one of the areas that help keep you in the foreground.

This goes for any business really, in a world full of nudity and noise seconds away from a click…there HAS to be something else that creates feeling for those who really are worth investing in. Will that be you?

Anyone can be naked, not everyone can have a personality.  Both is golden in porn.

(Please note these are merely my opinions. I’ve been in the industry going on 9 years now. I’m here because I enjoy what I do and I enjoy connection. This career path is not for the lackluster or half assers. This is serious every day work that pays off in the long run (be smart, save, pay taxes on time) as long as YOU are willing to be personal, connected, self motivated and always willing to learn and evolve.)

Ciao !

CeUnx8NXEAAXtr2

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hot tub time machine

CZ2X4vlUMAAtrlgsorry, no time machine will bring you this close to ME in a hot tub.

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Messages I receive…V.1

“bae how do see if we date.. you can ask anything you want in this world”

I already do…without having to date you random stranger…

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CUSTOM VIDEO REVIEW!

Recent review post in the custom video comment area of my website. Find information on custom videos here: https://missvikkilynn.com/custom-videos/

For anyone considering ordering a custom video from Victoria, here’s a detailed review of my recent experience:

1. Communication

Victoria is very professional and easy to do business with. She’s respectful, prompt, and accommodating. You are dealing with a professional content creator, not a girl treating this as a side-hobby.

2. Video Details

My custom video request was 750 words and Victoria nailed it. She exceeded my expectations and, funny enough, started teasing me even before the video began since the download size was 2 GB. I sat with anticipation while it downloaded and the end product was more than worth the wait. Very high quality stuff.

3. Response Time

I’m pretty sure I got lucky, but I have to mention this. The same day that Victoria acknowledged I made my payment to her, was the same day she delivered the video to me. Less than 12 hours turnaround. Very lucky, I know, but you could be too!

4. Intangibles & Personality

I’m going to be very honest. There are a lot of women online who produce similar content to Victoria, but I must say this: Victoria has to be the most sincere, genuine, and caring individual I’ve come across in this business. And to me that matters above all else. She is compassionate to us (the buyer) and strives to deliver her best in each video.

From the little I’ve interacted with her & read about her, it’s clear that she cares deeply about the world we live in and the people in it.

Conclusion:

Victoria is (more than) intelligent enough to understand your needs, wicked enough to deliver it strikingly, and gracious enough to be worth every penny. Money with her is money well spent, period.

Thank you, Victoria. You are a refreshing individual.

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you see Me…

CPydtgJWwAAhkT7 CPr6rvnW8AA_RQ2 But do I see you? Have you reached out? Made yourself known? Dipped into my clips? Purchased a custom video? Send a tribute? If you’ve done nothing then how can you serve Me and make yourself a better submissive by being selfless…for Me.

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The questions people ask when they are -always- wasting my time…

1. -goes into pvt show with paying client-comes back out of pvt show-

they are still sitting there then ask “how was that, did you have fun?” 

2. -hanging out LIVE on cam, can clearly see what I’m wearing-

they ask “what are you wearing? can you get up and turn around for me?”

3. -have logged into cam 5 million times, see same screen name(s), they always lurk-

they ask “what have you been up too? haven’t see you in awhile?” 

…you’ve never seen me…other then for free…lurking…I don’t owe you the 411. 

It’s pretty bad when you recognize certain screen names and it’s been YEARS and they’ve never contributed to your business.

4.  -when they have a dick avatar and profile information on twitter of -i love to please and fuck women with my big dick, kik me-

PS: it looks small.

5. Receives long winded email about a custom video/cam show after you’ve linked them to your blog that explains everything in detail and they ask for something you clearly don’t do…and they clearly think they are special and you will do it -just for them-. 

Now you’ve wasted my time…in more ways then one. Are they still teaching reading in schools? 

6. -Enters chat room, cordial how are you doing what are you up to’s exchanged. Then the “I’m just sitting here admiring your photos” comment comes.

Uh…because I’m here ready for a live show and why are you here if your not here for that? Go call your mom.

If you do not fall under any of these categories and have supported me…I thank you. No really, THANK YOU.

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a submissives words to his muse

[5/26/15, 2:29:04 PM] BVW: i say this with more sincerity than I know how to communicate at this distance, but when i tell you that YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE OBJECT OF MY DESIRE, I mean it. from the curves in your hip, to the varying level of playfulness in your octaves…to the way its all controlled by a very wicked, disciplined and creative mind, you are my QUEEN OF FANTASY and I have always, and will continue to carry you on an elite pedestal far above the noise and numbers. thank you.

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Sorry, I’m not nasty.

Wheels are turning, your wondering what this is about eh? Me too…me too.

Just kidding. Of course I know, alpha female here, hello!

Anyways. I tend to think a lot of people think a #femdoms twitter is going to be full of  you suck, loser this, fuck you that. Which for some it is, that’s fine. (I’ve hit on this subject a bit before in a previous blog posting-someone link it I’m too lazy right now) But for ME, I’m not going to divulge in such shenanigans outside of a paid custom video, clip or pvt show.

Plus there is just much more to me then that. If you are here reading this blog then you have a good idea of that already.

Plus I’m all for cordial correspondences via email, twitter etc as long as mutual respect is shown. (as we all know some people do deserve a hefty hammer to the face) I like to keep communication open and honest and leave the real divulging for the content I create.

Yes I’m a femdom. I always have been but I did not discover that about myself up until a few years ago. I always knew what I liked and did not like but it took me awhile to make a stand for that and go in a different direction then I had been before. I’m very grateful I took that leap into something that felt new but at the same time so familar. Like I mentioned to a person today via email I think it’s something we are born with and or is ingrained in how we were either raised, taught etc. It always comes to the surface at some point. (wether one is a submissive or dominant) Humans also like to play between both sides of the line as well-aka “switches”.

Maybe some of you don’t realize but I spend a lot of time reading books, articles and discussing fetish and kink with others as often as I can. It’s truly something I enjoy online and off. Even my friends in my personal life who have NO idea small penis humiliation or home wrecking fetishes existed before I told them. (faces are priceless of newbies to fetish ideals) It’s nice that I can bring a positive light what for some people is a mysterious and scary area of sexual exploration.

Anyways, I just wanted to pop in and say you won’t ever be seeing that kind of talk from me on social media and rarely in public chat rooms. Join a pvt if you want me to call you a loser…It’s much more fun for my bank account that way! HA HA HA. I genuinely like to interact with my fans and friends and enjoy them (you) all coming to me to further what you also enjoy by supporting me in purchasing content, shows and clips. (and those wishlist gift items as well, THANK YOU)

Have a great Friday fuckers! (just kidding)

Much love,

MissV

(I think when I turn 30 in a few years then I will switch to Mistress? for now “Miss” seems to fit nicely)

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